How to Slay University: The Season of Adulting

Hey guys and welcome back to this beautiful space, I hope that you are feeling energised and revitalised because we have work to do! whether we are at college or university, we are on the same road to getting our degrees, obtaining our dream careers and hopefully making a great success of ourselves. As young people, we go through a lot of pressures to stand out of the crowd, to compete against each other and often times we fall into the trap of thinking that life is a "race". As a 20 year old young woman, one of the the things I'm currently learning throughout the process of this unnerving season of 'adulting', is 'How to React to the Journey of life.' Regardless of our income, social status, sex, family upbringing, etc. life is not fair on everyone and it is inevitable that we will go through life-changing obstacles that will probably define us as individuals. Therefore, the main question we should ask ourselves, is how can we still remain in control of life, still be content and most importantly, how to remain happy.

Through experience one of the things I realised is that to remain in control of life, one has to learn how to react to it accordingly. That is how you gain control. For example, college or university assignments are piling up horribly and you don't understand a single thing. So what do you do? You make sure your place of work is tidy and organised and you take the initiative to arrange various meetings with your teachers, friends etc. and you continue to strive to accomplish the assignments with a positive attitude. Remember, it's all about how you react to the stressful situations. Personally, I've formed my own formula on how to succeed during my season of adulting. It's a formula I live by day in and day out and it's a form of discipline that I want to be able to teach my children because I believe that disciplining yourself is so important when you transition from being a child to becoming an adult. I'm guessing you guys want to know a little more about my formula, well I'm here to share it with you guys. Time to take out a notebook and pen!

Rebecca's Guide to Adulting:

A Tidy Room is a Tidy Mind- There is something so therapeutic about having a tidy and organised room that makes you feel like you're above your problem. Personally, I can never begin my day with a messy and an unorganised room because psychologically, it makes me feel like the life I'm living is...well messy and unorganised to simply put it. By this straight-forward routine, I'm constantly disciplining myself that regardless of what life may throw at me, I feel like I am above it. This is great practise when you eventually have your future home that you will look after.
Prayer is key- Prayer can be a form of release when you feel like the stress and pressures of life is getting to you. I always encourage anyone that I talk to, that praying in the morning is a great way to start the day feeling positive, confident and encouraged to take on the day. Moreover, prayer enables you to give the weight that you carry unto God, he knows the pain and struggles that we go through, and all he wants us to do is to involve him in our daily lives and he will see us through it.
Look Fabulous- Although, we sadly have no control over life, we definitely have control over our appearance. I am a believer in presenting yourself in the way you see yourself. For example, I know myself in God and he is the King of kings and therefore, I come from royalty. I am a precious jewel and I will present myself as such. When you understand your worth and calling, branding yourself accordingly is something that you will come to understand when it comes to preparing yourself in line to your destiny. If you want to read more about my philosophy click here!
Positive people equals a positive environment- There is nothing better than having positive people who are like-minded and have the desire to accomplish and amount to great things in life. Evidently, the environment that you end up creating with them is so uplifting for your mind and soul. Cling unto those who will sharpen you like iron, these are the kind of people that you can learn from as they will challenge you, enabling you to reach your full potential. In Proverbs 27:17 it states that "Iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend." Enduring relationships that enables you to be sharpened (to be improved) through persistence, support, encouragement, praise and even constructive criticism will be the very thing that will make you a great person. These are the friendships you should aim to have and if you don't, I urge you to leave a toxic environment.
Sit down and self-evaluate- Self-evaluation and having some sort of accountability is key to moving forward! Sit down with yourself and try to understand how and why you seem to be making the same mistakes, how your allowing yourself to stay in toxic environments etc. There is nothing worse than deceiving yourself because even your parents will not always be there to tell you about yourself. This is a quality that will help you to become wiser in life and lets face it, as new adults, we cannot be having the same mistakes time and time again.

Volia! This is the discipline that I use to survive my season of adulting, and it has been working amazingly. I want to encourage you guys to have some form of discipline that you can abide by that will help you through this transition. It is not easy and it will take time, it took me a year to identify the ingredients that would work for me and I thank God that through his help I finally created something that worked for me. I hope that you are blessed and inspired by my formula.

Until the next entry x

Editorial: Fall